Are you a member of the GMC (Guilty Moms Club)? Just about every mother I know is. For some reason guilt comes with motherhood. If your child has an ear infection, "What if I laid him down too soon after drinking his bottle and the fluid backed up in his ear canal?" If your child falls down and scrapes his knee, "What if I had been watching him closer?" We tend to blame ourselves (guilt) for things that we cannot control.
Another common emotion (for lack of better term) for mothers is failure. If your child brings home a bad grade, "I didn't stress enough the importance of school and grades." If your child gets caught in a lie, "I wasn't teaching him enough about honesty." When our children fail, we feel that we fail. Failure is a part of growing up, learning, etc. Our children need to fail sometimes (they will learn from that quicker than the lessons that we teach them). Our children's failures do NOT reflect upon us.
At our MOPS Steering Team Retreat a few weeks ago, our very wise coordinator said (and I am paraphrasing), "God is The Perfect Parent and look at how often His children fail." Tamara, thanks so much for your words of wisdom. That brings me comfort.
Our children are not puppets. We cannot (and should not) control everything our children do. We (and I am including myself in this) should relax a little and enjoy our children more (even their mistakes - it's a process).